Saturday, February 26, 2011

The secret life of the style blogger

[30 for 30: Outfit 24]
Shirt: Old Navy
Skirt: Old Navy
Belt: Charlotte Russe
Boots: Frye
Weird bright yellow spot on skirt: c/o headlights of the truck
when we ran outside to take photos with the car running

My son, P, really likes to play with my iPhone. He loves playing with all his baby apps, and watching videos on YouTube or Netflix. When he gets fussy and we need to distract him from whining/throwing a fit, we'll pull out the iPhone and let him play with it. Yesterday, as we were clearing the plates from dinner, I gave P my phone, and let him find his own apps to play with. My mom was watching him, and P decided at that moment to pull up an app that I've been using to keep track of my outfits. Basically, it's a calendar app that you can upload a photo for each day, and I just use it to remember when I wore what. Since I've been remembering to take photos everyday for this month's 30 for 30 challenge, it's been really helpful, and I don't need to pull up my blog everytime I want to see when I wore a specific item last.

Anyway, my mom saw my calendar full of outfit pictures and was like, "Huh? What is this? You take a picture of your outfit everyday?!!?!!" and I was like, "uh, yeah..." and then I ran off because I didn't want her to see how red my cheeks got. 

I realize that there's two kinds of style/fashion bloggers. There's the people who tell all their friends and family about their blog, and then there's the ones that don't. I fall in the second category.

Despite me getting super excited about a bunch of random strangers finding my blog, I find it really difficult to tell the people that I know in real life about it. I assume that they won't get why I post pictures of myself in the internet and talk about my clothes, or think that they'll label me as an attention-seeking narcissist.

I do eventually want to show my mom as well as my friends my blog (extra photo-takers right there!), but I don't think I'm ready just yet. Sometimes I feel like I'm hiding a big part of my life from them, now that blogging takes up so much of my time (reading blogs, taking pictures, writing posts, doing blog designs, etc.) and I really do want to be able to talk to them about how happy my blog and all my new blog friends make me. It's just so hard to bring up in a normal conversation though! But then, the longer I wait, the harder it will be to tell them. I don't know, mang!

What do you guys do?

Oh, and I doubled up on outfits today. I wore the outfit above to go to Panera Bread for lunch, and then the outfit below to go grocery shopping after naptime. It was too dark outside to take outdoor pictures, and I just realized how nice it is to take indoor pictures. I can wear short sleeves and not freeze half to death.

[30 for 30: Outfit 25]
Shirt: Nordstrom BP
Skirt: Forever 21
Flats: Target
super-wrinkles on the skirt: c/o me throwing all
my clothes in a pile and being too lazy to iron

45 comments:

  1. I feel ya, girl. I definitely have told my mom and my close fam about my blog, but as for my friends? Only a handful of them know about it. And it is so odd, because the ones I have told are not at all supportive of my blog in any way. I assume they never read it, or just stalk it and don't acknowledge the fact that they look. Which is a whole other problem...not feeling supported by my "real" friends makes me sad & hurt, but all my awesome blogger friends pretty much make up for that. So my advice is: Don't feel like you have to tell anyone! It's totally cool to keep it to yourself, especially if you think they won't really be supportive about it. Who needs Debbie Downers? ;)

    Happy Weekend!

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  2. I love both those skirts!! And I completely understand what you mean about not telling people. I have put it off and put it off, but I eventually tell people. Sometimes it seems so awkward to explain!

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  3. Oh Kimmie, I would have had the same reaction if anyone found out I have a blog :( So I have no advice to give, but just to say I totally sympathize. Nobody I know in real life knows I have a blog.

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  4. I totally understand. The only people that know about my blog is my boyfriend and my other friend who accidentally came across it when he was on my computer.

    When I was reading about how you wanted to tell your family/friends about how much your blog friends make you happy, I thought about what would happened if I told my family/friends - they'll think I've gone nuts-o.

    Please let us know what happens when you do decide to share with the "real" world.

    Btw, I like the way you part your hair!

    Just Better Together

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  5. I am in the same boat. My Mom totally found the blog but won't say anything so it's even MORE awkward! As for friends, I fear that people will find my highly narcissistic after seeing how much (it seems like) I care about clothes.

    I do love how you pair flats with tights and skirts - I tend to always do the boot thing. I need to branch out!

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  6. My family knows about my blog..and a few friends too, but I don't think they read it! My mom kind of likes the idea, she even emails me every time a post a new outfit telling me what she liked about it and what not :)
    But it's definitely difficult to talk about a blog in real life...I guess we all are just too afraid of the reaction of our friends. How could you explain it to them? Especially if they couldn't care less about personal style??

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  7. You are speaking to my heart! I would have said the exact same thing! I'm a new blogger and I haven't told anyone, not even my boyfriend. I do want to see first how far I can take this and if it's really something I will continue to do. For now, things are looking very good in that department ;-)
    I talk about blogs with my boyfriend though, and I that will help with understanding why I do it (and that I'm not a attention-seeking narcissist, too ^^). I love reading blogs because they give me so much more than women's magazines - which I stopped reading. Blogs give me inspiration and food for thought... And pretty pictures ;-) They stimulate my brain way more than generic magazines. And I started a blog because I wanted to participate.
    And I will probably talk about blogs with my family, too, before I tell them I have one. I'm such a wuss about it that for now, my blog is even anonymous, but I plan on changing that.
    It is really funny how one is embarassed when friends and family find out... Or someone is watching the photo sessions... And at the same time so very happy when someone comes along on the blog and says Hi :-) I know I am!
    By the way, my greatest "fear" is that some of my students find my blog *facepalm* Will they still be able to see me as the professional that I am, blog or no blog?

    www.relatablestyle.blogspot.com

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  8. Yesterday my brother came over and he wanted to use my laptop. I totally forgot that I was sorting through my pictures and he asked me if I have a clothing blog or something. I neither confirmed nor denied it and simply changed the subject. But boy was I embarrassed! So I know exactly what you mean Kimmie! It think its okay that random strangers who blog about clothing knows that you take pictures of yourself, because they understand and are in the same boat. Others will most likely think we're narcissistic, like you said. The only person who knows about my blog is my fiance, and he wholly support it.

    Complex Cardigans

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  9. i completely understand! i don't want to get wrapped up in what others think, but i don't want snarks about my blog! my boyfriend know and he thinks it's cool. other than that, no one i know knows about it. lol
    i just don't want to get comments that take the joy away that i get from blogging.

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  10. I completely understand your dilemma! I use a twitter account to promote my blog and a bunch of friends/acquaintances from my real life have discovered it. I'm always nervous that they click on the link to my blog and are like "kate is so weird! she takes pictures of herself everyday!" I feel like unless they read fashion blogs and are part of the blogging community, they just don't really understand it. But I have been slowly telling people, and they're more supportive than I thought. Also, it's kind of nice to let a few people in on the secret because then they can help out!

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  11. Hi, I just found your blog through Peanut Butter Hand Print and I love it, I'm so glad I stumbled upon it. You have awesome style! And the cutest toddler to boot :)

    Yeah, my co-bloggers and I went through similar stages in telling our friends and families just because style blogging is such an unfamiliar concept to most people. If you're not familiar with the genre, it's hard to understand why someone would be posting pictures of their outfits online. But most people we tell are maybe surprised at first, then intrigued, and then usually very supportive.

    I still don't usually tell people about the site but I'm no longer embrarassed about it either. It also helps that my husband is very supportive of it and that I have co-bloggers with whom I can share the agonizing "do we tell her, do we not?" questions. Good luck with navigating the waters of style blogging!

    Meanwhile, I've added you to our blogroll :)

    S.

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  13. I hate it when my link doesn't work, had to fix it.

    Your predicament is mine as well. I have told no one, not even my boyfriend yet. I keep thinking he'll look at me weird and tell me I'm strange. Which I am. But not the point haha.

    Clearly you are short enough to wear F21 skirts. I envy you a bit, I have too much leg to wear them without looking hooker-ish. Oh the fun of height sometimes.

    http://mygrowingobsessions.blogspot.com

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  14. I feel you on keeping the style blog under wraps. I haven't really gotten my blog off the ground yet, but I don't tell certain people about it because its something I enjoy and I don't want their negative input.

    My boyfriend found an older version of my blog before we started dating and told me about it... haha, it was kind of cool that he found it and now he is supportive, he lets me post photos of him and talk about our personal life. He even offers to help me with it some. So it just depends on the person.

    Some are too nit-picky and negative and they just don't get to "enjoy" the sunshine of our style blogs, while others get to enjoy it all they want!

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  15. I'm in the same boat as you! Aside from my roommates and a couple of other close friends, no one really knows about my blogging.

    I love to write and jot down my thoughts on the blog. Posting outfit photos has also really helped me to stay consistent with material being posted, but as you mentioned, I too feel a little bit narcissistic whenever I reread some of my entries. Oy.

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  16. love both these skirts!! gorgeously styled outfits :) your blog is lovely! xo

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  17. I'm with you as well. I haven't told any 'real life' friends or family about my blog, for fear that they'd judge me or that they just wouldn't "get it". I like that my blog is my little place where I can go and write about whatever I want, without having to answer for it in "real life".

    I'm sure I'll start telling people one day, but like you, I'm just not there yet either. So glad you did a post on this! I've always wondered what other bloggers did on this issue.

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  18. oh my goodness, I'm like in the exact opposite boat of you. Everyone and their mom knows about my blog and it's always a topic of conversation. I never thought that "blog" would be a common word that my mom even uses but she always asks me about my blog, which I do love that she's so interested in it. The one thing that I have tried to keep it from is my work because as a HR director for a consulting firm, style blogging doesn't exactly go hand in hand. BUT my blog is pretty easily findable so I got a call the other day from my boss who said "My wife is a huge fan of 'I am Style-ish'!" Which I laughed but then I'm kinda annoyed now knowing that my boss (who is the CEO of the company) will be reading what I write. It's fine because he and I have a very good relationship and I consider him a good friend but still with work relationships, it's not something that I want to mix.

    Anyway, I will ALWAYS be supportive of your blogging :) I have loved reading and following along. My favorite part is that I feel like I'm getting to know you a lot better! You are a totally different Kimmie than I knew in college and I absolutely adore getting to know this side of you.

    One piece of advice when telling people about your blog, don't approach it as "this is something weird/bad I have to tell you" or make it seem like you are embarrassed by it. Approach it with a "I have a fantastic thing to tell you and I think you'll love it and would love for you to check it out" If you approach it in the more positive way, people are going to be more receptive in the fact that it is something that you love to do and will want to support you. That's pretty much how I started telling people about it and it made them so curious that they always went home to check out my blog and then let me know that they are reading!

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  19. I also fall into the second category, too! Only my boyfriend, my roommate, and two very good friends know about my blog. I feel really weird bringing it up to other people... I guess I shouldn't though? I don't know. I'm not really sure how to handle it either.

    Also, I love your hair in this post! I think I didn't realize how long it was since I'm used to seeing it curly. You're pretty. :)

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  20. I can relate to this post! Barely any of my friends or family know that I have a blog and only a few co-workers (and my husband, obviously) know that I'm participating in Kendi's 30 for 30 challenge. I'm also feeling very shy about my blog but I'm sure I'll share it with everyone eventually. :)

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  21. i can totally relate to this! my mom knew that i had a blog, but didn't know what it was called or anything. then she asked for a link out of the blue and i felt a little awkward. and then i found out that she forwarded the link to a bunch of her friends! ack! so yeah, i'm definitely not ready to tell the non-digital world about my blog!

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  22. Oh my gosh you guys, thanks SOOOO much for all the encouragement. You guys are the best. That's what I keep blogging! :) :) :)

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  23. I am the same way about sharing my blog! My family and close friends know about it, but I get really embarrassed when my mom tells people about it or friends that I don't know that well discover it. I never think they will understand.

    Love your outfits by the way!

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  24. A few of my friends and family members know about my blog, but I definitely get embarrassed when it comes up in conversation with people who don't know about it. I always worry they'll think I'm narcissistic or something.

    Oh well, I love both of those outfits! Those skirts are seriously the cutest.

    Shopping and Spreadsheets

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  25. Excellent question! I've been thinking about how/when to mention my blog to friends and family. At first, I didn't want to introduce it because I wasn't totally sure that I'd enjoy style blogging and have a desire to keep doing it. I've been at it for about two months now and have really liked it, so it seems like a good time to share the blog with more people I know, but I find myself hesitating because it's a style blog. It seems sort of superficial, in a way, to put so much emphasis on clothes, you know? I know other style bloggers understand it's not superficial, but I'm not sure that my friends/family will feel the same. I guess I'd better learn to take myself seriously before I ask everyone else to do it!

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  26. I guess every writer wants to be read so when I started my blog about a month ago, I decided to be very open about it. I put links to my daily posts on Facebook. Sure, I think some people probably think I'm full of myself and some probably think me strange, but I've got a lot of positive comments and a lot of my friends are telling me they enjoy my blog. I think being older helps. At my age I don't care as much what people think of me as I did when I was younger. Now I mostly think, well...this is just how I am so why not just post it!

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  27. I also wanted to say I just found your blog and became your newest follower.

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  28. B totally outed me at Christmas and I was humiliated but since then everyone has been so amazingly positive and it's really created a new way to keep in contact. When I told my best friend it was like I was breaking up with her or something, "Um...so I need to tell you something and it feels weird to make a big deal about it but it feels weird not to tell you and...it takes up so much of my time it feels weird for you not to know about it...I started a blog." I was literally sweating.

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  29. I feel sooo awkward talking about my blog in real life. And lots of my friends know about it and read it and it just makes me feel all squidgy inside when it comes up. I always change the subject.

    We had some friends over for dinner last night and the HUSBAND started talking about my blog. I almost died of blushing embarrassment.

    Kayla
    Freckles in April | a modest clothing blog

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  30. That's too funny that your mom doesn't know about this blog! It is very awkward to talk to people about my blog in real life...it just sounds so superficial -- so I don't blame you. But I promote it on my Facebook page so basically all my friends know about mine...

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  31. If you think it's hard to explain to your mom and friends about your blog try explaining to your grandma... it didn't go so well for me. I don't think she has any clue why I do it.

    You outfits are both great and I have a project restyle in the works that will hopefully end up looking similar to your second skirt!

    Rochelle

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  32. cute story! i love your outfits too!

    http://whenbabispeaks.blogspot.com

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  33. Oh my gosh, I am the same way. Have not told family or friends about my blog as I get embarassed. But something about sharing with all of you just feels fun and easy. Cute outfit, as always!!

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  34. As you already know from my post, my ole blog is NOT for my friends or family. I would have been MORTIFIED!!

    The Auspicious Life

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  35. As you already know from my post, my ole blog is NOT for my friends or family. I would have been MORTIFIED!!

    The Auspicious Life

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  36. I am the same way about sharing my blog! My family and close friends know about it, but I get really embarrassed when my mom tells people about it or friends that I don't know that well discover it. I never think they will understand.

    Love your outfits by the way!

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  37. Oh my gosh you guys, thanks SOOOO much for all the encouragement. You guys are the best. That's what I keep blogging! :) :) :)

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  38. oh my goodness, I'm like in the exact opposite boat of you. Everyone and their mom knows about my blog and it's always a topic of conversation. I never thought that "blog" would be a common word that my mom even uses but she always asks me about my blog, which I do love that she's so interested in it. The one thing that I have tried to keep it from is my work because as a HR director for a consulting firm, style blogging doesn't exactly go hand in hand. BUT my blog is pretty easily findable so I got a call the other day from my boss who said "My wife is a huge fan of 'I am Style-ish'!" Which I laughed but then I'm kinda annoyed now knowing that my boss (who is the CEO of the company) will be reading what I write. It's fine because he and I have a very good relationship and I consider him a good friend but still with work relationships, it's not something that I want to mix.

    Anyway, I will ALWAYS be supportive of your blogging :) I have loved reading and following along. My favorite part is that I feel like I'm getting to know you a lot better! You are a totally different Kimmie than I knew in college and I absolutely adore getting to know this side of you.

    One piece of advice when telling people about your blog, don't approach it as "this is something weird/bad I have to tell you" or make it seem like you are embarrassed by it. Approach it with a "I have a fantastic thing to tell you and I think you'll love it and would love for you to check it out" If you approach it in the more positive way, people are going to be more receptive in the fact that it is something that you love to do and will want to support you. That's pretty much how I started telling people about it and it made them so curious that they always went home to check out my blog and then let me know that they are reading!

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  39. love both these skirts!! gorgeously styled outfits :) your blog is lovely! xo

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  40. I hate it when my link doesn't work, had to fix it.

    Your predicament is mine as well. I have told no one, not even my boyfriend yet. I keep thinking he'll look at me weird and tell me I'm strange. Which I am. But not the point haha.

    Clearly you are short enough to wear F21 skirts. I envy you a bit, I have too much leg to wear them without looking hooker-ish. Oh the fun of height sometimes.

    http://mygrowingobsessions.blogspot.com

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  41. Hi, I just found your blog through Peanut Butter Hand Print and I love it, I'm so glad I stumbled upon it. You have awesome style! And the cutest toddler to boot :)

    Yeah, my co-bloggers and I went through similar stages in telling our friends and families just because style blogging is such an unfamiliar concept to most people. If you're not familiar with the genre, it's hard to understand why someone would be posting pictures of their outfits online. But most people we tell are maybe surprised at first, then intrigued, and then usually very supportive.

    I still don't usually tell people about the site but I'm no longer embrarassed about it either. It also helps that my husband is very supportive of it and that I have co-bloggers with whom I can share the agonizing "do we tell her, do we not?" questions. Good luck with navigating the waters of style blogging!

    Meanwhile, I've added you to our blogroll :)

    S.

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  42. I completely understand your dilemma! I use a twitter account to promote my blog and a bunch of friends/acquaintances from my real life have discovered it. I'm always nervous that they click on the link to my blog and are like "kate is so weird! she takes pictures of herself everyday!" I feel like unless they read fashion blogs and are part of the blogging community, they just don't really understand it. But I have been slowly telling people, and they're more supportive than I thought. Also, it's kind of nice to let a few people in on the secret because then they can help out!

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  43. Yesterday my brother came over and he wanted to use my laptop. I totally forgot that I was sorting through my pictures and he asked me if I have a clothing blog or something. I neither confirmed nor denied it and simply changed the subject. But boy was I embarrassed! So I know exactly what you mean Kimmie! It think its okay that random strangers who blog about clothing knows that you take pictures of yourself, because they understand and are in the same boat. Others will most likely think we're narcissistic, like you said. The only person who knows about my blog is my fiance, and he wholly support it.

    Complex Cardigans

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  44. You are speaking to my heart! I would have said the exact same thing! I'm a new blogger and I haven't told anyone, not even my boyfriend. I do want to see first how far I can take this and if it's really something I will continue to do. For now, things are looking very good in that department ;-)
    I talk about blogs with my boyfriend though, and I that will help with understanding why I do it (and that I'm not a attention-seeking narcissist, too ^^). I love reading blogs because they give me so much more than women's magazines - which I stopped reading. Blogs give me inspiration and food for thought... And pretty pictures ;-) They stimulate my brain way more than generic magazines. And I started a blog because I wanted to participate.
    And I will probably talk about blogs with my family, too, before I tell them I have one. I'm such a wuss about it that for now, my blog is even anonymous, but I plan on changing that.
    It is really funny how one is embarassed when friends and family find out... Or someone is watching the photo sessions... And at the same time so very happy when someone comes along on the blog and says Hi :-) I know I am!
    By the way, my greatest "fear" is that some of my students find my blog *facepalm* Will they still be able to see me as the professional that I am, blog or no blog?

    www.relatablestyle.blogspot.com

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  45. I love both those skirts!! And I completely understand what you mean about not telling people. I have put it off and put it off, but I eventually tell people. Sometimes it seems so awkward to explain!

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